Forgiving your body during weight loss is something we should all think about because there are more ways to accept yourself than you might expect.

Eating right is just as important for losing weight and weight management as is exercising.
Eating right is just as important for weight loss and weight management as exercising.

I’m a 41-year-old woman who’s overweight and trying to lose weight, going through a journey of learning and breakup with food. This is a journey of sharing over time that will hopefully give some insight not only into me but into perhaps you as well. Hopefully, this can also foster some forgiveness that you can give yourself in this weight loss journey that you need to have with your body as you age.

We all have to learn to forgive ourselves, we all have to learn to live with our bodies, and we all have to learn that there are things that we need to learn about ourselves on what works and what doesn’t work.

I started out as an overweight kid. I was always overweight, always told, like I’m sure most of us my age were, to clean your plate and not waste food. Weight loss wasn’t on my agenda.

Now I’m an overweight adult, counting portions, but still cleaning my plate – just with less food on it and using Weight Watchers. I started out at 280lbs several years ago, and I knew one day, in a moment of serendipity, looking in the mirror, that I needed to do something. I knew when my doctor put me on a statin that I really needed to do something.

So I did, and so far, I’ve lost a considerable amount of weight. I’m still not where I want to be, but I’m heading there and will one day get into weight management instead of just weight loss.

On this journey, I’ve had to learn to forgive myself and my body. I’m not as young as I used to be as the saying goes. There are creaks and aches, muscles that scream and days where it’s sore just to move after a day of good hard workouts. There are days where I’m hungry as hell after eating everything that I usually do on most days and making sure that I have enough protein before and after workouts to beat the “after munchies.”

It’s hard, but I know a few things now about this journey in weight loss that I’ve undertaken.

Forgiveness is a struggle, but it’s a real thing, and it’s up to you to really give it to yourself. Sometimes feeling guilty for not being able to do something is just a mental barrier getting in the way because we know we used to be able to do it, and we’re in denial that we can’t quite perform the way we used to. You have to see changing up how you eat as a lifestyle change for weight loss and weight management, not a diet.

Diets are easy to give up. Lifestyle changes are a key to weight loss.

So for those of you struggling out there, with weight loss or weight management, know that you’re working towards a better you for tomorrow — no, for the rest of your life. As I always tell myself, my why is: “I want to live the best life I can and dance the funky chicken at my 50th wedding anniversary. Food is the medicine to get me there.”

Find your why, forgive yourself, realize you’re changing every day, and you’ll find things to be a lot easier than you thought they’d be when you’re not fighting yourself every step of the way.