As a kid we were likely all bullied at some point, but even as adults we can have that experience. Kindness can go a long way in counteracting this.
Bullying is a monumental problem in the world, not just the United States. In fact, it’s said that the number of people who have experienced cyberbullying in their life have more than doubled (18% to 37%) from 2007-2019.
An excellent rule of thumb and a good saying that I heard once was that the only reason that people lash out at others is that they’re in pain themselves. People speak hurtfully from their own pain. I’d like to state that while we may not be in the same boat all the time with pain and suffering, we’re all in the same ocean together.
Kindness is something we don’t quite practice enough in our day-to-day lives, and I’d like to address that today as it starts at home rather than outside the home. Just being kind to your spouse, your family and those at home is an excellent base for then going out into the world and being kind to others. This also sets them up for being kind to others and they have a moral example in you. Kids especially need this coming from their parents.
4 Reasons Kindness Matters
- Kindness is love. We begin with being kind to ourselves and then kind to others. That kindness will then radiate beyond ourselves and into the world.
- Kindness is foundational to relationships. If you can’t be kind to those you love, then how can you be genuinely kind to those outside? Starting at home with your family is the key to a long-lasting relationship, not only with them but with yourself and the world outside.
- Kindness helps those who are hurting. When someone lashes out, most times they are expecting to be hurt back, a fight to ensue, or for you to be bothered by their words or actions. Responding in kind not only hurts you but amplifies their hurt and continues the cycle.
- Kindness helps us be more positive. Having a positive outlook not only improves our mental health but our wellbeing and helps not only us but those around us.
4 Ways To Practice Kindness
- Compliment others. Tell others to have a wonderful day, that they look nice, or say something positive about them. This will help you feel good and give them a positive boost that they may have needed that day.
- Help others. If you see someone in need, help them. Don’t expect that someone else will, that someone might be you.
- Tell someone you appreciate them. Telling someone that they’ve done something well or good is great, but telling them you appreciate them is another matter entirely. Feeling appreciated is always something that makes someone feel good, no matter the circumstance.
- Live with kindness as an everyday rule. Even if you don’t feel like being kind that day, make sure you incorporate it and it will brighten and improve your day by leaps and bounds.
Kindness is key to a wonderful mental health. Practicing it every day is an enjoyable way to keep in touch with not only ourselves but those around us as well and the world at large. If you’re not fighting yourself or those around you, then you’re bound to be happier, healthier, and kinder to not only yourself but those you love and those that you see every day.