Moving in with your partner marks an enormous step in any relationship. There are three things you should know before moving in, to ensure successful cohabitation and a happy household.
So you and your partner love each other and are moving in together. You recognize you don’t know everything about your partner, but you are eager to learn. You focus on the initial glow of waking up in the same space together. Sometimes your partner may do things that irritate you, but it won’t break-up the relationship. However, there are three things you should know before moving in with your partner because they can lead to bust-ups and break-ups.
1. Know How You and Your Partner Will Share the Household Chores
How do you avoid coming home to a sink load of dirty dishes and wondering what happened to the Dish Fairy? Before moving in with your partner, agree on the household chore list and the division of labor.
Laundry pile-up, dirty floors, and dirty bathrooms can lead to long, drawn-out arguments, increasing stress in your relationship. There are household chores that you might prefer to do, such as folding the laundry or emptying the dishwasher. Know this about each other first and then amicably share the household chores that you and your partner both dislike, but are necessary evils.
Know How You and Your Partner Will Share the Household Finances
Money is at the heart of many a break-up. If you find that you’re paying the entire mortgage and buying all the groceries while your partner spends his money on his car payment, then you will have some words! It is important to draw up a household budget before moving in and for you and your partner to know your expected contributions.
It doesn’t have to be an equal share, but it should be proportionate to your disposable income. You should also know and agree to upfront the items that will comprise the household budget. Your partner’s dental plan or make-up costs are not a household budget item and should be part of your personal budget expenses.
Know Your Partner’s Relationship Goals
It’s important to know before moving in with your partner that you both have the same relationship goals and expectations. If you both upfront agree that neither of you wants children or marriage, or that you want one or both, you’ve defined your relationship expectations.
The ‘let’s move in together and then decide’ approach hardly works. Living together shouldn’t be a test-run. What if you decide that you want to get married and your partner is not on the same page? It’s better to agree on the destination beforehand, even if there are obstacles on the way.
There are many things you should know before moving in with your partner to ensure a happy household. Failure to know and agree before moving in can break-up a relationship which started with the best of intentions. What do you think of these three things to consider? Have you ever moved in with a partner without considering them? Leave us a comment!