When we feel depressed after a breakup, our productivity declines, and our other relationships may suffer. A relationship may have ended, but this is not the end for you. Here are four fulfilling experiences that await you after a breakup.
Fulfilling Experience #1: Meeting New People
A loving relationship can be a fulfilling experience, but we often forget that there are experiences outside the relationship that we also need to pursue. You will need to re-learn how to meet new people and open yourself up to trying new things after a breakup.
We are social creatures, meaning all of our beliefs and convictions come from our upbringing, culture, and interactions with other humans. In relationships, we stop seeking the company of outsiders because we feel fulfilled with what we have, and so we deprive ourselves outside human interaction without realizing. Think of all the people you haven’t met yet and the beautiful diversity you’re missing out on.
Fulfilling Experience #2: Having More Time
You’re most likely not seeking new experiences after going through a breakup. You may be heartbroken, and having more time alone with yourself might not help in mending your pain. It can be hard to believe that life will be fulfilling again, but look at what you are gaining!
Let’s say, over an average week, you and your significant other spend roughly 8 to 10 hours together, 4 hours on the phone, and 2 to 3 hours traveling together. After you breakup, that means you now have an extra 15 to 20 hours per week to do pretty much anything you want. That’s enough time to get a part-time job, learn a new skill, take dance lessons, start a fight club, or whatever new experience you might find fulfilling. Your time, your rules; it is a gift, so use it.
Fulfilling Experience #3: Addressing Your Own Issues
We discover who we are through the experiences we have with other people. The more we grow, the more we learn about ourselves, and it the experience can be very liberating. Patterns, behaviors, and mistakes are often repeated after a breakup and it can be hard to see inside yourself when you are preoccupied with someone else.
The time that directly follows a breakup is all about you. You can take that time to examine your emotional wounds and address any unhealthy post-breakup patterns you might have developed. It takes guts to admit your shortcomings, and even more courage to change yourself for the better.
It’s not uncommon for people seek therapy to resolve unhealthy patterns or to get over bad breakup. A breakup is a great time to gain some self-awareness because the wounds are fresh and the emotions valid. Addressing your issues head-on is a fulfilling experience you’ll be glad you spent time on.
Fulfilling Experience #4: You Will Find Love Again
Going through a breakup can be a difficult but finding love again is one of the most fulfilling experiences a person can have. The first stages of new love are a wonderful time, and you will have the chance to experience that again.
Just because you’re experiencing a breakup now doesn’t mean love has ceased to exist. A breakup often leaves us closed-hearted and unwilling to search for new fulfilling experiences. Sooner or later, love will come back to you.
Your relationship might have ended in a breakup, but this is not the end of the line! The important thing is to let yourself grieve while still leaving yourself open to new fulfilling experiences. And be sure to stop back into Love Aroono for all your post-breakup needs and more.