Married life isn’t all it’s talked up to be, and struggling to adapt to the “new normal” after nuptials is something most couples experience. Are you a newly married couple? Here are five tips for you and your partner to keep your first year of marriage full of joy and happiness.
Marriage is a big step. Once you come down from the high of the marriage ceremony and honeymoon, reality can crash down on you and your partner. What happens when the day-to-day rituals start?
Many married couples start making mistakes just after marriage, which affects their relationship in the long run. Luckily, Love Aroono has you covered with these five tips for a newly married couple to make your marriage a happy and successful one.
Discuss Pet Peeves With Your Partner
If you are a newly married couple who lived apart before your wedding, then talking about pet peeves is the first thing you need to do with your partner. Discuss your living habits slowly adapt.
In a marriage, both you and your partner need to compromise. Clear out things like leaving the toilet seat up or down, or leaving a wet towel in the bathroom, where you prefer to keep the dirty laundry and other small things that could potentially cause you both tension.
A friend of mine told me about her experience after her marriage. She was shocked when her husband began leaving his dirty soccer socks on the bed right near her pillow! She confronted her husband, and he promised her he would make it a habit to put his dirty socks in the hamper from then on. They also sat down and discussed other habits that may bug each other. Two hours later, after many fits of laughter, they had an extensive list and promised one another to work on each of the pet peeve’s one by one.
Do Activities Together
Your dating days are not over after marriage. Apart from candle light dinners, you can do many other activities with your partner. Some ideas for newly married couple are:
- Hiking with your partner
- Attend a cooking or art class
- Group dates
There are many things you can do with your newly married partner. The idea is to spend time with each other outside of the house and enjoy the bliss of marriage. It creates more bonding experiences for the two of you, allowing you to grow even closer, and giving you space from the domesticity of being stuck at home.
Never Go to Bed Angry
This is the piece of first advice given to a newly married couple, and it is expert advice. Arguments will happen between you and your partner; it’s unavoidable. Make it a practice to discuss the issues with your partner before bedtime so that the issues won’t carry over to the next day and mess with your night’s sleep.
The bed is for other things. Clear things out with your partner beforehand, and go to bed cuddling up with each other. You’re newly married! You have a lifetime of fighting ahead of you, so face them with your partner sooner and move on to keep your marriage strong.
Make Plans for the Future
Marriage is a sacred bond. You make promises to spend time with your partner for the rest of your life, and the time has come to fulfill them. So, make plans for your future and work to create a stable marriage.
Your marriage ceremony can put a dent on your savings, so the year following your wedding is the time to get serious and plan out your finances. You and your newly married partner both need to work as a unit, not individually. Don’t think just because you are newly married you need to enjoy everything now and work later. Yes, you can enjoy it, but you need to plan ahead for a good marriage as well. Start from the first day.
Treat Your Partner With Respect
Respect is one of the fundamental aspects that keeps a marriage alive. Respect your partner at home and especially when you are with others. Leave your silly banters for when you are alone since your partner may get hurt when you argue in front of other people. Don’t create unnecessary drama in your marriage when you are with your friends and family.
As newly married to my partner, I can say that love and proper communication is the string that holds a marriage together. You will only be “newly married” for a little bit of time, and after that period is over, you have an entire lifetime to spend with your partner. Support and love for each other are what will make your marriage successful.