According to Robert Sternberg’s Love Theory, love is a triangle. There are seven types of love, all depending on the specific combination of three different components. Here are the remaining three of the seven types of love.
In a previous article, we discussed the first four types of love, according to psychologist Robert Sternberg. If you haven’t read about the first four types, you can find them here. Sternberg calls his theory, Triangular Love, because, as he states, love is composed of three main elements.
The three elements of love are intimacy, passion, and commitment. Depending on the relationship and the situation, one or more of these elements must be present. And the type of love in the relationship derives from each specific combination. Depending on the combination of these elements, seven types of love can be created.
In the previous article, we saw four types of love, three of which only include one element from the triangle. Below are the remaining three types, which include more complicated element combinations.
Type of Triangular Love # 5: Compationate Love
This type of love combines two triangular love elements: commitment and intimacy. Yet, it lacks passion. This type of love has powerful emotional bonds with no sexual attraction of any kind. According to the triangular love theory, this is a mellow phase in a relationship progression.
Emotional intimacy and commitment make companionate love stronger than a simple friendship. This is due to the long-term commitment it entails. This type of love has intimacy because of the affection it contains, but without a sexual desire. The most common example of this type of love is platonic love.
Type of Triangular Love #6: Fatuous Love
Fatuous love is a combination of commitment and passion without the element of intimacy. This type of love is very compulsive, because it combines the fire of passion and the bonds of commitment. Lacking intimacy means there is no emotional connection, however.
Fatuous love is a whirlwind of passion. Without an emotional connection, it’s an easy-come-easy-go type of triangular love. For that reason, when passion mellows, the relationship becomes hard to sustain. The most common example of this kind of love is short-lived marriages.
Type of Triangular Love #7:
Consummate love is a combination of all three elements: passion, intimacy, and commitment. This makes consummate love the triangle of love itself and is the type every healthy marriage should strive for.
In consummate love, couples overcome differences and face dark times together. Couples in triangular love delight in the relationship they have with one other. There is still passion and sexual attraction, but also, the comfort of intimacy, and the team-spirit of commitment. Even when the elements are not on equal levels, there is still balance in this type of love.
Now it is time to evaluate your relationships. Knowing these types can give you the knowledge needed to evaluate the types of triangular love in your life, and how it impacts you. You can now reflect and make decisions for your own wellness. As you can see, there are many types of love, so always remember to love in your own way.
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