When your head is on a swivel because the romance you have right now might not be good enough, ask yourself how you can make the romance better.

Searching for a better romance can mean missing out on what you have.
Your romance is likely better than you think.

A roving eye is a dangerous thing. It can kill a romance as quickly as a bat upside the head. For some reason, a lot of people seem to think the next person they meet has got to be better than the one who’s waiting for them at home.

Are you one of those people? Is romance a revolving door proposition for you?

Here are four ways to give up this kind of thinking and focus on the romance you’ve already started building rather than always seeking something better. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side of the fence, people.

Romance Deserves a Better Attitude

Like anything worth having, a good romantic relationship is worth working at. You have to want to make it work rather than being ready to throw it out the window at the first opportunity. Don’t be the problem, find the solution. Make a better romance your priority.

Romance is About Better Actions

Go the extra mile with your romantic partner. Fix that special dinner. Buy the romantic bouquet. Cuddle when you’re watching TV. Find ways to make your partner feel special and give them the center stage in your life. You’ll find the response you get will be a surprising reward.

Romance is Better with Forgiveness

While it’s hard, if not impossible, to forgive infidelity or abuse (and certainly these things are romance-killers which don’t belong in a healthy relationship), it is fairly easy to overlook your partner leaving the cap off the toothpaste. Maybe the things he or she does that annoy you should be endearing rather than making you frustrated. After all, are you perfect? What quirks do you have that your romantic partner overlooks for the sake of harmony?

Romance isn’t about Mr. or Ms. Better or Perfect

There is no perfect partner. If you’re looking for one, you might as well decide to become a monk right now, because you’re going to be disappointed with every potential romantic partner you meet.

The key to finding Mr. or Ms. Right, is to find someone with quirks you can deal with. Not quirks you plan to change; never go into a relationship with the goal to change the other person, instead, accept them for who they are, faults and all. A better romance includes a realistic attitude about people and what makes them individuals.

Stop searching for the peach that might be better than the tasty one you have in your hand. Remember that romance should last a lifetime. A commitment like that takes patience, flexibility, and effort.

Don’t sell what you have short. A better romance is something you find in unlikely places, like right under your nose.