We all are searching for love, but does that make it not ok to be single? Don’t worry, there is nothing wrong with dating yourself! Here are four reasons why it is ok to be single.

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Dating Yourself: 4 Reasons Why It’s Ok to Be Single.
Graphic by Haydee Vanegas.

Love and romance are psychological and physiological human needs, which makes love is something we all search for. Dating is the most common way to look for love and romance, but dating is complicated, just like love and people. 

Even when dating and love are two things most of us want, the truth is that it’s okay to be single. According to psychological research, there are over 76 reasons people would choose to remain single. Thanks to stereotypes, staying single has negative connotations.

The truth is, believe it or not, being single is also a natural statement of humans. Contrary to what stereotypes can make us think, dating should not be a must. So there shouldn’t be any pressure. If you are single and are conflicted about not dating someone right now, this article is for you. It is okay to date yourself instead.

Reason It’s Okay to Be Single: Self-Love and Self-Confidence

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Reason #1 It’s OK to Be Single: Self-Love and Self-Confidence.
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If there is something that being single allows you to do is to focus on yourself. By dating yourself, you will get to know yourself better and work on your weaknesses. A great reason to be single is to take time for yourself because self-love and self-esteem are critical aspects of psychological wellness.

When we are dating someone, it is normal to center our attention on that other person. The truth is we can’t know and accept others if we don’t know and accept ourselves.

Reason It’s Okay to Be Single: There Is a Time for Everything and Everyone

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Reason #2 It’s OK to Be Single: There Is a Time for Everything and Everyone.
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If being single means suffering to you, there is one main thing you need to understand: everything has its own time. Contrary to what stereotypes might make you think, there is no “right” time for dating. Feelings are free of any human barrier.

So, being single is a natural part of life. Life is not static; that is the reason there is a time for everything and everyone. It wouldn’t be fair to force things. Also, dating takes time. Finding someone takes time. A good reason why it’s okay to be single is that it is natural and healthy.

Reason It’s Okay to Be Single: Autonomy and Independence

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Reason #3 It’s OK to Be Single: Autonomy and Independence.
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When dating, we often lose our autonomy and independence. These two things stay with us while we are single. This allows us to really enjoy dating ourselves because there is no reason to renounce or dismiss things we like to please others.

When we are single, we can do things we enjoy or consider what is important for us without sacrificing anything to coexist in a relationship.

Reason It’s Okay to Be Single: Rediscovery and Restart

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Reason #4 It’s OK to Be Single: Rediscovery and Restart.
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Even when it doesn’t seem like it, being single is actually an opportunity to restart and rediscover ourselves. Most of us can’t have a fresh start or discover new things about ourselves when dating, mostly for fear of losing what we have built with the person we are dating.

Being single is a time when we explore our creativity. Dating ourselves means finding new things to be happy and have a good time doing. We can have a fresh start, rethink ourselves, and discover what we want.

Being single allows us to see everything from a new and individual perspective. In that way, we find out what we really desire, not what we expect us to do.


It is normal to feel desperate or anxious when we are single, but being single is normal and natural. The truth is that being single should not be a reason for suffering for anyone, and being single is part of an eternal cycle. What are your thoughts about being single? Do you think it’s unfairly stigmatized? Let us know in the comments below!