Does your partner struggle with pornography addiction? If so, you’re not alone. But, you can get through it. Here are 6 tips for supporting your partner.

Support your partner in overcoming their pornography addiction.
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Support your partner in overcoming their pornography addiction.
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1. Discuss With Your Partner

This may seem like the worst thing to you.. It may be awkward. It may be uncomfortable. But, it is so important.

It sets the building blocks for the rest of this list. Discuss it. The initial reaction is likely to be one of frustration, anger, or simply unexplainable emotions.

In order to move forward, you need to talk about it.

Find out your partner’s triggers. What makes your partner turn back to pornography? How do you feel?

Get everything out in the open!

2. Set Expectations for Each Partner

Part of overcoming pornography is setting expectations.
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Part of overcoming pornography is setting expectations.
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The journey to conquer pornography addiction cannot begin without expectations.

What can you do? What do you expect from your partner? Do you want them to tell you when they start feeling the pull to their addiction? Just when they slip? Want to do a weekly check in? Set your expectations.

3. Hold Them Accountable

Okay, you’ve discussed it. You’ve set your expectations. Now what can you do? Hold your partner accountable.

This is not to say, interrogate them. But, check on them. Ask them how they’re doing.

If you are not comfortable being that person or they don’t want you to be, have them ask someone else to be their accountability partner.

But, everyone needs somebody.

4. Pray for Them

Support your partner through prayer.
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Support your partner through prayer.
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Overcoming an addiction is difficult. Take the time to pray for your partner. Pray together.

5. Remain Compassionate

The last thing your partner needs is to feel like they will get attacked if they are honest. Stay compassionate.

6. Forgive Your Partner

Your partner's pornography addiction can be overcome
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Your partner’s pornography addiction can be overcome
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For some, this is the hardest thing to do.

But a healthy relationship can’t move forward if you won’t forgive your partner.

It’s also important for the one struggling with pornography to forgive themselves.

Resources

If you or your partner is struggling with pornography addiction, here are some resources that may help

*Ever Accountable
*Lion Apps
*BrainBuddy
*My SAA Toolkit
*Overcome Porn 40 Day Challenge

Overcoming a pornography addiction is not an overnight process. Your partner may fall a few times. You may get frustrated. They may get frustrated. Just remember, your support is imperative. It can make the difference between moving forward or staying the same.