We all struggle with the infamous ‘what ifs’ in life. But ‘what ifs’ go both ways. Fear comes from the wrong ‘what ifs’. Jesus can turn this fear into confidence.

Which 'What If' are you asking yourself?
Which ‘What If’ are you asking yourself?
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In a world filled with doubts, where is your voice? Are you letting the ‘what if’ fears fill your mind? Faith can reprogram our thinking. We can rise above the negativity. Jesus can teach us how to talk to ourselves, turning ‘what if’ into a positive force.

Insecurities Behind the Wrong ‘What Ifs’

Failure of Fulfilled Childhood Needs Lead to Painful Emotional Insecurities
Failure of Fulfilled Childhood Needs Lead to Painful Emotional Insecurities
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Doubts created from insecurities can prevent us from fulfilling our full potential. Yet not all doubts come from insecurities. Doubts can come from past failures, missed opportunities, and other negative experiences. The most debilitating doubts often come from childhood neglect. All these doubts create the fear-filled ‘what ifs’ that run through our minds.

Taormina and Sun argue that insecurities come from fear. This fear is created by a lack of trust during childhood. Trust is the ability to know someone will do what they promised. Insecurities develop when children don’t feel they can trust their parents, which is a basic need. When this need is not met, it creates an inability to engage with more complex needs. Without this ability, children will not be able to deal with negative criticism.

When a human being harbors extensive fears, the doubts in their minds often lead to a path of rejection. Address debilitating fears so healing can begin. Emotional intelligence is the ability to regulate one’s own emotions. This inability to regulate emotions causes fear in new ideas. If one cannot see decisions without fear, they will be avoided.

The Tormenting ‘What Ifs’

Our mind can torment us with painful 'what Ifs'
Our mind can torment us with painful ‘what Ifs’
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Life is an incredible journey filled with both magnificent and devastating experiences. Our minds reflect on the negative experiences far more than positive experiences. This is what psychologists call negative bias. Our brains use our negative experiences to drive our decision making.

Vasih, Grossman, and Woodward explain that it takes more effort to process negative events. Positive information is easier to process, so we focus less on those experiences. We must attempt to focus on positive information instead. We can do this through Mindful Meditation. This trains your mind to become attentive to positive sensory information.

The negative cycle can feel overwhelming. Childhood trauma can add to that feeling. But don’t let yourself get stuck in negativity bias. There is a way out of the loop. We can teach ourselves to focus on the positive.

Faith In The ‘What Ifs’

These thoughts can overcome and control our minds.
These thoughts can overcome and control our minds.
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Jesus wants us to hear the hope in the ‘what ifs.’ Negative patterns in our mind want to hear what if I fail?’ while Jesus wants us to hear, what if you succeed?. Biblical truths about Jesus can help us focus on the positive aspects of our lives. It can help create a break in our negative thinking patterns. Repeating scripture mantras help when our minds get stuck in negative patterns. This meditation technique helps us put faith in the right ‘what ifs’.

For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.

2 Timothy 1:7 NIV

There are endless verses we can use as our meditation mantras. When we are talking about fearful ‘what ifs’ keeping us from following our dreams we need courage. Our ‘what ifs’ can make us give up or get up. Jesus wants you to get up, and He is ready to help you feed yourself with positive biblical self-talk. We can’t change our past, but we can change our ending.

Be strong. Take courage. Don’t be intimidated. Don’t give them a second thought because God, your God, is striding ahead of you. He’s right there with you. He won’t let you down; he won’t leave you.

Deuteronomy 31:6 MSG

‘What ifs’ go in good and bad directions. We need ‘what ifs’ to push through our struggles. It isn’t easy, but it is possible. Fear comes when we put our faith in the wrong ‘what if.’ Take a deep breath, find one thing to be grateful for, and hear the hope in Jesus’ words. If we stop the cycle, change our focus, we can make our minds work for us, not against us.

Be alert, stand firm in the faith, be brave, be strong.

1 Corinthians 16:13 GNT

The ‘what ifs’ can haunt us all in different ways, but they can also free us. The choice is ours to take back control. Let Jesus lead you out of the negative cycle. He is enough and so are you. It’s time to believe in the ‘what ifs.’